The ability to control other characters

I allow minor controlling of my character. For example if a character has suggested their character and mine should go somewhere, and my character agrees, I'm fine with the next post being 'when they arrived at ____' because it saves time and cuts out boring posts. I also have no problem with RPers that I know fairly well making up a few minor incidents in the past, like say, a colleague of one of my characters discussing the time my character got drunk and got into a fight with a shop mannequin or something like that. In general I'd only trust that to people who I've been RPing with for a while though.

On the other hand, I would not want other writing my own character for me, especially not if it was purely for the fact that I wasn't around to post. If nothing else, it'd make me feel rather superfluous if people were just using my character without my input, and beyond that, even with a detailed character sheet, there are lots of small quirks to a character that might not have been brought up.

For instance one of my characters has a whole load of hang-ups which are subtly noticeable. She doesn't like physical contact, and despite being a vampire, she hates biting people. Now, since I don't want to tell everyone in the RP the reasons for that, I want the characters to interpret that in their own way. I don't necessarily want to have to spell it out to everyone, I want some things to remain a secret for a reveal later, and I wouldn't want someone else taking the character and portraying her using their theory of why she behaves that way, because it'll be inconsistent.

Hopefully I'm making sense here.

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